tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post6172582309875160472..comments2024-03-26T01:03:39.965-07:00Comments on Janette Rallison's Blog: The writer and self-esteemUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-20605230004295210072018-09-03T22:20:00.994-07:002018-09-03T22:20:00.994-07:00Amazing post.Thank you very much for this importan...Amazing post.Thank you very much for this important post.<br /><a href="https://blog.mindvalley.com/causes-of-low-self-esteem/" rel="nofollow">https://blog.mindvalley.com/causes-of-low-self-esteem</a>Mindvalleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07258228697025638864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-9835067282514458332010-02-12T19:42:24.117-07:002010-02-12T19:42:24.117-07:00What an incredible blog. It struck a chord with me...What an incredible blog. It struck a chord with me, and you would not believe how deeply I was in need of your words. They hit home for sure. We all go through the same things, I guess. Congratulations about your book. I know it will be fantastic, just like you.Camillanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-6965297330509094242010-02-12T07:41:23.461-07:002010-02-12T07:41:23.461-07:00Janette,
Thank you so much for this post! I just ...Janette, <br />Thank you so much for this post! I just got my first agent rejection on a novel that is as much of my tears and soul as . . . well, my own tears and soul. Anyway, I'm feeling much better now. Thanks again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-37067870295210404462010-02-11T05:32:57.114-07:002010-02-11T05:32:57.114-07:00Just surfed in ... congrats on your book coming ou...Just surfed in ... congrats on your book coming out. I am in that boat and as Simon C says, it is a good boat to be in :P<br /><br />Nice to meet ya!Kim Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13933746166088034102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-91511449279264712932010-02-10T14:33:52.614-07:002010-02-10T14:33:52.614-07:00I am looking forward to my first rejection. I hav...I am looking forward to my first rejection. I haven't made it far enough to get to the rejection part of writing yet. <br /><br />I'll let you know how it goes though!The Novelisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16966701772659997692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-73486610820975231142010-02-10T13:31:21.871-07:002010-02-10T13:31:21.871-07:00Good post, Janette. I think it hit home for lots o...Good post, Janette. I think it hit home for lots of us. The trick seems to be can we put ourselves back together like Humpty Dumpty couldn't after that big fall. Faith helps, and I don't mean faith in a self-esteem way, and just being tenacious, keeping, keeping on.Jennifer J.http://www.jenniferjstewart.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-37487664645388750592010-02-10T11:03:47.838-07:002010-02-10T11:03:47.838-07:00I am so sorry authors go through this. I am so gr...I am so sorry authors go through this. I am so grateful there are people who put themselves out there. I just passed some books on to a friend who stopped by looking for something to read. We had fun talking about My Fair Godmother. We both loved it. <br /><br />Cellphones saved my marriage too. My husband ran out of gas 6 miles from home and decided he would just walk instead of finding a payphone or asking to use someones phone.Amiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09910597940843163223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-58580032263891402492010-02-10T05:53:01.757-07:002010-02-10T05:53:01.757-07:00What a great blog.What a great blog.Nicole B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-87094431538156435982010-02-10T00:00:46.242-07:002010-02-10T00:00:46.242-07:00Wow....I finished reading my rejection email from ...Wow....I finished reading my rejection email from my partial about an hour or so ago. I really needed this tonight so thanks for that. Trying really hard to keep it together and not think my work isn't worth it. It's hard tonight but hopefully things will look brighter in the morning. This post really helped.Melonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12316592864979427722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-53845217336273366002010-02-09T11:48:29.008-07:002010-02-09T11:48:29.008-07:00Wow, thanks for this post Janette. It's just w...Wow, thanks for this post Janette. It's just what I needed to hear. Especially since I'm in the trenches as we speak. <br /><br />I don't think writers have low self esteem at all. Our perceived neediness is a direct result of what we put ourselves through. Writers by nature analyze life deeply. We tend to be more sensitive and much more self aware than most people. Which makes rejection even more of a challenge. <br /><br />Even if I know I'm not supposed to take a rejection personally, it still plants seeds of doubt. I teach public speaking and believe me, most people would not dream of putting themselves as far out there as writers do. <br /><br />I think writers are incredibly brave. We are some of the few in society who are willing to step out of our comfort zones in a huge way even though we know it's going to hurt. <br /><br />Yay for writers! Yay for you! Can't wait to read the finished product of My Double life.Hoontahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12601234829089589146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-64509994383469855162010-02-09T09:51:51.659-07:002010-02-09T09:51:51.659-07:00Great post! I think it would be very hard to put ...Great post! I think it would be very hard to put your stuff out there and be rejected. It is hard enough getting critique on your stuff for editing. <br /><br />I think you are pretty level headed about the whole thing.Aubreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01993824625567055858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-34403475935641255702010-02-09T09:49:39.422-07:002010-02-09T09:49:39.422-07:00Janette, I loved this post. Thank you for writing...Janette, I loved this post. Thank you for writing it!<br /><br />And I can't wait to read MDL.<br /><br />And congrats on the Whitney nomination!!Allyson Condiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13384196403099270156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-74960497675286634912010-02-09T09:35:29.253-07:002010-02-09T09:35:29.253-07:00Yep, my new agent is George Nicholson with Sterlin...Yep, my new agent is George Nicholson with Sterling Lord. I feel like I'm in good hands there.Janette Rallisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00883483145480893640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-54365774796428444632010-02-09T09:23:49.009-07:002010-02-09T09:23:49.009-07:00What a great post, and so true. And Sarah I love t...What a great post, and so true. And Sarah I love the pinata analogy too. So perfect. So, are you saying you just barely got a new agent, or was that in the past? Either way, I hope everything goes really well with the launch of MDL!! :-) I can't wait to read it!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03613324386175550318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-88972920796004718292010-02-09T09:19:54.255-07:002010-02-09T09:19:54.255-07:00You couldn't possibly have a low self esteem. ...You couldn't possibly have a low self esteem. I only stalk people with high self esteems.Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05184772057308479564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-86183908906314958262010-02-09T09:11:47.824-07:002010-02-09T09:11:47.824-07:00Thank you for this, Janette. I needed it today.Thank you for this, Janette. I needed it today.Jackeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03351019926958000627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-45390892861522692082010-02-09T08:48:39.006-07:002010-02-09T08:48:39.006-07:00Great post, Janette, and I like the pinata analogy...Great post, Janette, and I like the pinata analogy, Sarah.Valerie Ipsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15958210886138097232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-38484794270665362362010-02-09T08:40:07.407-07:002010-02-09T08:40:07.407-07:00I tried to explain this to someone recently--she w...I tried to explain this to someone recently--she was sort of up on her high horse saying that if someone can't handle the rejection/criticism/etc that is part of the writing industry, than that person shouldn't be a writer. (PS--she has never even attempted to have anything published. Figures, right?)<br /><br />Here's how I explained it. Being a writer is sort of like being a pinata. You take a lot of hits, but for the most part you keep it together. Once in a while someone or something hits at just the right time in just the right way and things fall apart for a while. Anyone would break under those circumstances. The difference is, authors (the ones who survive this industry, anyway) put the pieces back together and get back out there.<br /><br />So, yeah, writers have moments when their self esteem is battered and when they kind of break down. But I think most "normal" people would be amazed to know that we duct tape ourselves back together and go take some more blows.Sarah M Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08496833468568204150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-83431655841102875152010-02-09T07:08:29.839-07:002010-02-09T07:08:29.839-07:00Writing is so hard. Like you said, you put your he...Writing is so hard. Like you said, you put your heart and soul out there. Thats not low self esteem. Thats fear. Warranted fear. Keep your chin. Never feel bad for being diligent!Tales of Whimsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10938494589922620170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-2359421190433483242010-02-09T06:36:21.880-07:002010-02-09T06:36:21.880-07:00Yes, that is exactly the nature. I'm glad thi...Yes, that is exactly the nature. I'm glad this blog touched a chord with you! Those rejections are hard even in the best of times.Janette Rallisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00883483145480893640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33666188.post-64251327742601792582010-02-09T03:12:40.421-07:002010-02-09T03:12:40.421-07:00You have no idea how much I needed to read this, J...You have no idea how much I needed to read this, Janette. <br /><br />I suffer from Depression and recently wrangled with this rejection/worry problem. I take so many blows to the chin in stride, I wonder why some hurt more than others. I have decided that most of the time I do have very good self-esteem. Sometimes, though, I am teetering at the edge of a dive into the black bog when a rejection comes along. I just need to take extra care to protect my self-esteem at those moments.<br /><br />I look back at that rejection now and I see it as a feather blown at me by the wind, but for some reason it hit me like a two by four last week. We truly do put a slice of ourselves out there for the world to judge. <br /><br />BTW, two months without contact is definitely worth worrying about. You’re not out of line. It’s a business you’re trying to conduct. Communication is key. I detest it when editors/clients take their time getting back to me, then tell me they need it tomorrow. But that’s the nature of the publication industry, isn’t it?<br /><br />~DouglasD.R. 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